After going to Christin's funeral I was compelled to plan my own. I found a check list for planning a funeral, and well, here is what I want
1. Will it be a funeral or a memorial service? I want a memorial service. I don't want my body lying in front of a crowd of people weeping over me but a crowd of people gathered enjoying their time together just as if I was there. After this gathering with music and people talking as I know they will. I want to be buried, not cremated. I want a place where my children can come and talk to me when they feel lonely.
2. An obituary is needed to be written. And I want my children to do it. I want to be remembered through their memories of me and the love I gave them because that is the most important to me.
3. Are you going to use a casket for the body, or will there be a cremation? Ideas on caskets and urns. I DO NOT WANT TO BE CREMATED UNLESS ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY. I don't have any casket ideas, I will already be gone from my body and with Christ but understand the grieving process for my loved ones, so pick the cheapest.
4. If you are using a casket, where will the burial be? I want to be buried in Oklahoma City.
5. Who will officiate the service? Minister, family friend, funeral celebrant? What type of service do you want? Religious or spiritual or non-religious. I would love for a close friend to officiate my memorial, or at least just help coordinate I don't want the typical service. Spiritual.
6. Do you want to have a powerpoint or video presentation of photographs of the life of the deceased? Ideas for presentations.LOTS AND LOTS OF PICTURES, I think maybe letting my closest friends create one for that aspect of my life and my children and family for another
7. Do you want someone to give an Eulogy. If is a welcome addition to the service but not absolutely necessary, particularly in a religious service. Ideas for eulogies. How to write an eulogy. I just want to be remembered as a person my children can be proud of. I want the service to be for my children. I want to eulogy to talk to my children. I want James 4:14 in the eulogy somewhere, it is my tattoo, and it reminds me how short our time is together.
8. Where will the service be held? It can be in the funeral chapel, a church, a hotel, in a park. A park what a great idea, or a beach...... yea
9. Are there any items of the deceased that you would like present? Funeral themes and ideas. NAH!
10. Flowers by the family are traditionally ordered for delivery to where the service is being held. Cherry Blossoms and Daises
11. Are there special songs you would like played, as people enter, during and after the service. Do you want an organist, a harpist, a band, a flutist? Is there recorded music you would like played? See funeral music or hymns. Funeral music ideas and Funeral hymns. I want songs that make people remember me, not churchy songs that will bring tears of sadness but songs that will tears of times remembered with me. Any friend that play instruments or sing I would love that.... what and honor
12. Any particular Bible readings you would like. Who will read it? Funeral Bible Reading ideas. Or a particular poem? James 4:14........ that is the only one unless someone has another idea
13. Will you have a reception after the service? Where will it be? Sharing drinks and company with new and old friends and family of mine.... I love meeting new people and introducing people to each other
To Christin:
Thank you for being a part of my life for the short time that you were. I will forever be changed by you. I pray that your children will remember you smile, drive, intensity, and love. You will be missed, the heavens are blessed with you presence.
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